1 /5 Andrea Martinez: April 2 2024 ,
While my father was in his end of life transistion, I was spending time there with he and my mother as a support and to check on their welfare ; due to recent APS contact , because of neglect by the family members who had control over their Power of Attorney .
I spoke with a hospice social worker there in confidence to share concerns about these family members ( one with an extensive and dangerous criminal history ) who had POA of both my parents . Due to the recent APS contact and my concern about their well being , I was asking for eyes and ears on my parents while at the facility .
Not only did the case worker, a mandatory reprter , condescend to me and disregard my concerns , She then violated Ethical standards by repeating the conversation to the very family members posing the risk to my parents well being and safety. This put my safety at risk as well.
This is dangerous, unethical, and unprofessional conduct .
Secondly, I stayed the night with my father on April 2 into April 3 , to keep him comfortable. I have been a caregiver for 30 years and have spent many nights providing care and comfort to hospice patients. I had low light and the TV on his favorite program on mute. My husband was sleeping on one side and I was keeping watch on the other, the night nurse came in and gave him meds around 10 pm and said shed return in 30 min . She did not return to check on him in 30 min , she did not reposition him or swab his mouth . I was there and knew what to do to keep him comfortable, so I put cream on his lips, hydrated his mouth , cooled his hands, took the covers back when he over heated , until approximately 1:oo am he got agitated and I called the nurse in. She came in and proceeded to lecture me on comfort care and telling me the TV needed to be off and room dark so he could rest . In 30 years of providing hospice care, I have never heard of having a dying patient in the dark. I asked her if I should leave , and she said no . I stayed and sat with my dying father in a pitch dark room. When she came in, she would shine her bright phone light in his face